On marriage equality...did you know that divorce rates are highest
among evangelical's.
i don't know if that's actually true but
i
picked it up somewhere. The other one
i picked up was that divorce
rates are higher in conservative states...
i wonder if that is true,
actually
i think that one is. On a personal level here on St. Croix
it does seem that most of my liberal friends that are in long marriages have been married a long
long time while most of my conservative friends in second long marriages have all been
divorced at least once. Another anomaly
i suppose and one not based upon reliable data, but it makes for interesting rumination.
Anyway, this past week was historic in ways most of us on the left
never expected. President Obama came out in favor of marriage
equality and set off a fire storm amongst those for and against.
Before
i go on and just to make it perfectly clear
i am in favor
of marriage equality and see no reason whatsoever to think that two
men or two women marrying will ever affect the institution of
marriage between a man and a woman in a negative manner. In fact
i
think it will only strengthen the institution by encouraging more
people to make permanent commitments and
i applaud the president for
openly expressing his views.
In many ways
i have always thought that a homosexual man or woman
hiding in a straight marriage is grossly unfair to the other partner.
They can never love that person the way they should or deserve and
live a lie their entire lives making everyone unhappy. Why would
anyone condone or encourage these types of relationships? Why not
encourage a healthy relationship between two adults that want to love
each other without hiding.
People like Pat Robertson say the sexual union of two men or women
brings disease and pain... well
i hope he knows that it can bring
disease and pain between a man and a woman just as easily. Syphilis,
gonorrhea, chlamydia, and herpes can wreck havoc. Domestic violence,
emotional violence, alcoholism, drug abuse and anger can ruin childrens lives in a
heterosexual marriage. Divorce, death there are all sorts of
instances where marriage falls apart unexpectedly. Just because a man
and woman are married is no guarantee that a family is intact or that
the children will come out unscathed. And the same will go for
man,man and woman, woman marriages also.
When those on the right talk about the institution of marriage
they see this unreal vision of family bliss. Take off the rose colored
glasses and support marriage equality cause their getting married is never going to affect your marriage in any way shape or form. Marriage equality will probably cut down on sexually transmitted disease and create more stable communities.
The positive part of marriage equality is that two people that
love each other can legally tend to each others needs and the needs
of their family without having to worry that the rug will be pulled
out from underneath them.
i read a story recently of two men who had been together for
decades. They had invested in properties, built a business and made
a life together. When one got sick as they got older the other was
not allowed to make decisions and the hated sister in law came in and
wrecked havoc. She had always hated the companion and his
relationship with her brother so she denied him access to his lover while in the
hospital because she was the next of kin. When his partner died she took him to court and got half of
the estate, ruining his business, taking his home and disrupting his
life. Had they been allowed to legally marry this never would have
happened. They spent a lifetime together and this one vindictive
sister came in and made the survivors life a living hell.
But now
i get to the real crux of this piece which is that St. Croix should legalize same sex marriage immediately. Can you
imagine how this will boost our economy? Everyone wants to get
married in a tropical paradise and because marrying legally for gays
is limited to a few states we could be at the cutting edge of a
booming industry. Just think of all the occupations that would be
impacted positively...flowers, transportation, housing, food,
clothing, entertainment, lawyers, judges, real estate people and the list goes on.
So tell your friends we should legalize same sex marriage. Spread it around, talk it up,
i'll bet
it will make us a boom island once again.
See ya next week.